Ingredients for Success

Highlights from the July 15, 2014 Huffington Post article entitled "7 Ways Congregations Can Embrace People with Disabilities".

In a major study conducted by the University of Kentucky and Vanderbilt University, only 43% of the parents of children with special needs surveyed described their religious community as supportive and more than a third changed their place of worship because their child had not been included or welcomed.

The seven ways include:

• Communication - Provide a resouce person to listen to the needs of the person with a disability and their family to learn how they can work together toward full inclusion.
• Accessiblity - To the extent possible, meet the physical needs of the individual.
• Support - Provide an aide or peer assistant to participate in religious education, small group ministry, etc.
• Leadership - Faith communities where leaders are committed to including people with disabilities were more welcoming, offered greater opportunities for people to share their gifts and were more physically accessible.
• Participation - Invite people with disabilities to sit on boards and committees and to take more visible roles in congregational life.
• Education - Congregations that educate their members on disability issues are more welcoming and better able to integrate people with special needs into the life of the community.
• Love - Parents of children with special needs who experienced love and acceptance reported their congregations were sources of great strength and support.

With respect,

Mark Bernstein

Congregational Life Consultant, Central East Regional Group

UUA Liaison to Equual Access

Hero Worship

What is the definition of a hero?  I like the quote by our own Ralph Waldo Emerson that, “A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”

You may have seen the recent news story about the Houston, Texas waiter who refused to serve a customer because he asked to move his family to another table to be further away from a child with Down’s Syndrome who was sitting nearby with his family.  Further, the customer reportedly said to the waiter, Michael Garcia, that “Special needs children need to be special somewhere else.” 

Garcia responded by telling the customer that he was not able to serve him.  He also asked him how he could say that “about a beautiful 5-year-old angel?”  Since the incident, Garcia has been the object of media attention, celebration and pats on the back from restaurant customers eager to thank him for his five minutes of bravery.

 Here’s a link to the full story:

http://www.today.com/moms/waiter-hailed-hero-after-standing-boy-down-syndrome-1B8038223#waiter-hailed-hero-after-standing-boy-down-syndrome-1B8038223

What was it about Garcia’s act of defiance that caused such an outpouring of love and support?  Could it be that they saw in Garcia what they could not see in themselves?  A willingness to take a stand?  The courage to risk retribution and possibly injury/loss of job/loss of prestige to do what they think is right?

As Unitarian Universalists, we are compelled to be heroes every day of our lives.  Our faith requires us to speak out against injustice in whatever form we find it.  It requires us to be brave five minutes at a time.

Thank goodness for people like Michael Garcia.  He reminds us of the hero in all of us and the need to stay true to our values and to ourselves.  As George F. Kennan wrote, “Heroism is endurance for one moment more.”

 

Mark Bernstein

CERG Growth Consultant and UUA Liaison to Equual Access

Honoring Dorothea Dix - Reformer, Humanitarian, Unitarian

During the month of April the Equual Access featured discussion topic is Unitarian Universalist History with Accessibility and Inclusion. Since Dorothea Dix was born on April 4, it seems particularly fitting that we begin with a story about her and her work. Her life is featured on the Disability History Museum and her biography there reminds readers that, "Dix did not truly discover her life’s work until she was almost forty years old. She did not become a leader in the asylum movement until she herself experienced a debilitating bout of depression and physical illness in 1836."

The Tapestry of Faith Windows and Mirrors curriculum for grades 4-5 includes the life story of Dorothea Dix:

"Dorothea Dix lived in the 1800s. At a time when women had fewer choices than men did, Dorothea made extraordinary choices for herself. She did not grow up a Unitarian, but she chose to become one as an adult. Another choice she made was to work hard on behalf of other people.

Dorothea made one of the most important contributions to our society by helping to create hospitals for people with mental illness. In her time, there were no hospitals for people with mental problems. People who acted strange or could not communicate because they had difficulty thinking and interacting the same way most others did, were kept in prisons. Often they were chained and given very little clothing. So what if it was cold in the prison? Nobody cared whether these people were cold. Most people thought people with mental illness did not get cold or feel pain. In fact, many people thought that those with mental illness were not fully human at all.

.... Dorothea deeply valued the right to make one's own choices. She trusted her own choices about the right way to live her life. One of her choices was to become a Unitarian. Another was to work to help people with mental illness in ways they were not able to help themselves. She understood they were people whose right to make their own choices had been taken away. She helped everyone understand that people with mental illness are people like us, who deserve dignity and respect."

Justice and Equual Access by Carolyn Cartland, Vice President Equual Access

The theme for our January blog has been “Justice and Disability Rights.” As you may have read, we have several terrific contributions which reveal some of the ways we, people with disabilities, have not received justice and had our rights disrespected or withheld. When I first joined my congregation, I was denied equal access to the building because I could not open the front door independently. One extremely cold (ten degrees) January night I was stuck outside for what seemed like hours (it wasn’t, but boy was it cold!). Once I was in the building, amidst tears, rage, and chattering teeth, I communicated my needs to the women with whom I was attending a “Cakes for the Queen of Heaven” course. The next day, when I called the minister to discuss it with him, he had already heard from one of the class participants. Soon after, the Building and Grounds committee authorized funds for an automatic door opener. The rest, as the saying goes, is history. By advocating for physical access to the building, I was also advocating for the right of inclusion.

Equual Access was founded to promote the rights of Unitarian Universalists with disabilities, both within our congregations and within our larger community. Part of the strategy for having our rights recognized and acted upon is to tell our story, to communicate our issues and the discrimination which we face. This blog helps do that; so does talking and working within our congregations and the UUA. That’s what worked for me at my congregation.

To further our goal of increasing the inclusiveness of congregations and to add our voice to the larger social justice efforts undertaken by the UUA, the Board of EA will be working hard to expand our communications network. We will especially focus on communicating closely with the Multicultural Growth and Witness department; we will receive copies of their monthly reports so that we can learn what projects they are undertaking so that we can make sure our perspective is included. We will share our priorities and concerns with them as well. We will also be having periodic conversations with the head of the department, Taquiena Boston, and members of her staff so that we can increase each entity’s awareness of issues and concerns. Such specific and intentional conversations should aid in our joint efforts to respect the inherent worth and dignity of every individual, UU or not.